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Bodybuilding, health/fitness, thinking, life lessons, and nonsense. I’ve made a lot of mistakes. Contact: @ramsoberts on all socials (Twit, IG, L-IN)

Quite literally the biggest

Coming out of High School at 18 and getting ready to go to University a bit over four years ago, all I wanted to do was get huge. The week before moving, I had just finished my first ‘cut’, losing around 15 pounds — I wanted to be ripped for my first university experience… naturally.

Like every other 18-year-old in the gym, I wanted to look like Arnold — well, maybe kids today want to look like someone from social media but still, you get the point. I wanted to be the most jacked kid known to man. …

The title says it all, really

How many times a day will you scroll down your Instagram feed without seeing something along the lines of:

“Use code IMTAKINGADVANTAGEOFYOUBECAUSEYOUREGULLIBLE20 for 20% off of insert clothing or supplement brand here”

I’m going to go out on an extremely flimsy limb and say zero.

Now let me guess what the picture is of…

Abs? A butt? An extremely douchey flexing picture? Someone holding the supplement container in one hand with an almost too-perfect white smile?

If it’s not one of those, you’re lying. Because it is.

Now let me ask how many of you have compared yourself to an…

’Tis the season

Up until a month or so ago, I was in the best shape of my life, both mentally and physically.

My strength numbers were at an all-time high, increasing every workout. I was doing a couple of hours of cardio every week. I’d maintained my weight with a well-balanced diet for five months after losing nearly 30 pounds. I was in a daily habit of writing, reading, and stretching nearly every day — things were jolly.


Lately, I’ve been a mess.

I’ve been stuffing my face with crap almost every night, barely done any cardio, and replaced reading and…

Contrary to what social media may have you believe

Like many others when starting their fitness journey, I was clueless and impressionable. Ignorance was one of my key personality traits.

If someone had abs and some muscle, they might as well have had a Ph.D. in my eyes. Instagram and YouTube were my University. So naturally, being the desperate to get jacked teenager I was, I believed everything.

What I didn’t realize at the time is that everyone on the internet is perfect. People’s lives, diets, lifestyles — it’s all unicorns and rainbows. Everyone knows everything. If they are in good shape, whatever they say or do must be…

No fancy tricks, either.

Spring 2020 was a weird time.

I had to finish the final weeks of my undergrad online, I had to prematurely say goodbye to many of my friends who had to fly home on short notice, I had to move out of my first apartment I’d spent three years living in and move home, and I had to figure out what the heck I was going to do with my life.

Oh, and don’t forget the entire world locking down for months. That was fun.

I also made a choice that would completely change how I looked at myself in…

Think you’re working hard? Think again.

Most of us have seen these people — heck, most of us are these people. You know… the people at the gym who show up consistently, yet see little to no progress? Listen, there could be endless external possibilities limiting one’s progress in the gym — be it poor diet (which consists of endless possibilities within itself), lack of quality sleep, and bad form; however, chances are, it can be boiled down to the simplest explanation of all: a lack of actual hard work.

I know no one wants to hear the big words and over-complicated unnecessary exercise science terms—…

I wish I was lying.

It was just a normal afternoon on March break of my sophomore year of high school — little did I know my life was about to change forever. I wish I was being overly dramatic.

My squat was finally starting to get stronger and I couldn’t wait to get under the bar. There was my first mistake, not skipping leg day on March break as a 15-year-old. If there ever was a perfect excuse, that was it.

The thing is, like most other kids (and many adults too) in the gym, I thought I knew everything. I was an expert…

Losing weight has to be the hardest thing you’ve ever done, it has to suck. You have to suffer.

I’m sorry to say but what you’ve been seeing on Instagram is true. To lose weight your life has to be a living hell for months on end, there’s no avoiding it.

You have to eat the dullest food known to man, you have to do hours and hours of repetitive cardio every week, you have to start lifting like a wuss, you can’t socialize, you can’t have fun, and most of all, you have to be in a constant state of hating your life.


Per popular belief, your diet has to be pure torture. If you eat even just…

More isn’t always better. I went from 15 hours in the gym every week to 5 and got better results. No, it wasn’t witchcraft — here’s how I did it.

For the majority of my gym life, I was that guy who would be at the gym for hours at a time — and I was proud of it.

We all know that person— you know, the one who brags about going to the gym for two hours per day, seven days per week. The “I can’t remember the last time I took a rest day” person? Yeah, that was me.

I took pride in being “the gym guy” — it was almost my identity. I know, yikes.

On paper, it sounds incredible. 15+ hours in the gym every week…

They’re fairly simple, really

Without fail, every day I’m in the gym I see someone doing something that immediately makes me want to sink my palm directly into my face — and with force.

It can be as outlandish as a submediterranean jalapeno jumping box butt-kick or as straight forward as someone doing 800 sets of standing bicep curls with at minimum two minutes of phone sex in between — you’d be better off going for a walk for your dog.

Trust me when I say, I’ve been that person many, many more times than I’d like to admit. I’ve tried every weird potential…

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